So it’s that time of year again and I was thinking, “hmm what can I talk about for my Valentine’s Day post?” I really didn’t want to do the let’s not make a big deal out of Valentine’s Day kind of article because the truth is, eventhough it’s a made up holiday it is a special day for couples, maybe more so for women than for men but it is still a special day. We do enjoy special days and romantic gestures throughout the year, but this is the one special day that is deemed a day of romance.
It’s funny I was talking to a good guy friend of mine just a few moments ago and he confessed that this year he tried to talk his wife of 10yrs out of Valentine’s Day with excuses like, “What haven’t we done already?” or “Babe, don’t you know that Valentine’s Day isn’t really a holiday? It was made up by some guy named St. Valentine!” Of course she wasn’t having it and me as a woman was totally on her side! What is funny is as I browse through Facebook and Twitter statuses, a lot of men are thinking the same thing!! Which leads me to ask myself, whatever happened to romance? Why does it always have to be about money? Where has the creativity gone when it comes to doing something special for the person that you love? Is it that hard to put some thought behind a gift or to create a special night? As with any special day, it’s marked on the calendar and it never changes, so “money” really shouldn’t be a factor, putting aside some extra coins on the regular basis in your “special occasions account” should be a something that you should practice especially if you’re in a long-term relationship. You have all year to prepare and plan for these days but a lot of men like to wait until the last minute to decide what if anything they plan to do.
So for the last minute shoppers and the creatively challenged men out there I have decided to give away a few ideas for gifts and enjoyment for the approaching holiday, in no particular order:
- It doesn’t always have to be about just “sex” think outside the box, swing by the bookstore and pick up a book on the art of massage and set the mood for some serious intense lovemaking… You may also want to try and read up on the art of Tantra, which is a spiritual science, which means it is also mystical, in its interconnectedness, the holistic wisdom link between ourselves and the universe we inhabit. From Tantra is a practice called Tantric sex which is a meditative, spontaneous and intimate lovemaking to prolong the act of making love and to channel, rather than dissipate potent orgasmic energies moving through you, thereby raising the level of your consciousness. Tantra transports your sexuality from the plane of doing to the place of being. There is no goal in Tantric sex, only the present moment of perfect and harmonious union. Tantra teaches you to revere your sexual partner and to transform the act of sex into a sacrament of love.
- Don’t just buy her a piece of lingerie but maybe some edible body paint and massage oil. Eventhough the end result is sex, the mental and physical stimulation leading up to “the act” is what will make it a night to remember… Far too often is your lovemaking just “the usual” even if it’s “good” try something different.
- While you are at the bookstore, pick up some kiss me coupons or maybe some sexy sticky notes where you and her can play some after hour games with eachother.
- Dinner is always appreciated but if you don’t feel like dealing with the crowd and the jacked up prices, turn to the pros look on Food Network or Allrecipes.com and pick a quick simple romantic dinner that you both can enjoy. You can either plan to prepare it together and have fun tasting together, or prepare it all by yourself and set a beautiful candlelit table for two so that you can enjoy. Don’t forget a sexy desert and cocktail!
- Why not try a bath for two? If your tub can accomodate you both try it! Find a babysitter or put the kiddies to bed early. Turn the lights down or off. Light the candles fill the tub with warm water add some rose pedals, cut up pieces os fruit i.e. strawberries, blueberries and mango, bring up two glasses of champagne topped with the same fruit and put in Sade’s greatest hits or something similar and set it off.
- Speaking of music, go on your computer and hand select some of your personal favorite slow jams and slow dance with her in your bedroom while just talking or simply looking into her eyes.
- All women no matter how reserved and shy wouldn’t mind knowing how to work the pole for her special guy. I mean c’mon we’d much rather have you make it rain for us than going to spend money on someone else, so why don’t you take the time to look up pole dancing instructors, or pole dancing workout classes and have her put on a show for you?
- Or we enjoy the male body as well! So why don’t you put on a little sexy show for her?
- When all else fails how about a taking a trip down memory lane? Put together a little collage of pictures and trinkets of things that you have enjoyed together to remind her of how you two got to where you are and that being with her you hold all the same memories as dear to you as she does.
I hope that you have as much fun on Valentine’s Day as I plan too and may your Valentine’s Night be sweet, sexy and sultry!
Edible Kisses! xoxo
Zarinah
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