Hmm… I suppose so to a certain extent, but I am prone to believing that although we can claim to be friends, given the right situation at the right time, anything can happen. The truth is opposites attract right, so for all intensive purposes that means men are attracted to women and women to men. Not every woman may be attracted to a man in a sexual way and the same with a man, he may not only be attracted to a woman in a sexual way, but there is obviously something about her that he likes or else they wouldn’t be friends, would you agree? Same with a woman liking a man, it may not be sexual but he may stimulate her mentally or is funny or something about his personality that she likes or else again I ask why would they even be friends?
So to answer my question, can a man and a woman be friends… only to a certain degree. I believe because of the initial attraction that drew you together to even become friends given the right mix of ingredients, i.e. in a weakened state of loneliness, drinks, or a state of realization that you just happen to like this person and they are more than just a friend to you, that the relationship can have the potential to go beyond friendship at some point. Will everyone act on this? No because to some people it’s not worth ruining a friendship if the relationship turns sour, but to some people they figure hey let’s give it a try it’s the best of both worlds and we’re adult enough to try and maintain a friendship after if things don’t work out.
I think where things get sticky is if these “friends” are in relationships with other people. Let’s say he has a girl and she has a man. Is it important to consider how your mate may feel about this relationship/friendship you have with this person of the opposite sex? Yes if you truly care about that person. I know some people are like hey they were my friend before the relationship and they’ll be my friend after and you’re right but at the same time, your friend should respect your relationship. If the girl or guy in your life is reasonably uncomfortable with your friendship and you’re trying to make this serious, then ask your friend to respect that and maybe it’s not cool to call all times of the night or every five minutes. Also, it might be wise to introduce eachother so that way it’s all out in the open and the mate doesn’t feel as intimidated. I think there are ways to handling the opposite sex pro’s and con’s but in most situations they aren’t handled properly and one thing leads to another and things get really messy.
So don’t let go of your friends of the opposite sex just because you have a relationship, after all your friends are your friends and will always have your back. But have an agreement with your friends that you all understand that you’re in a relationship and that should be respected, so if ever comes a time where your significant other has concerns that are reasonable there won’t be any hard feelings if you have to say would you mind falling back a bit. Are you to do that for everyone, no? But for the relationships that are worth it and you’re really trying to work on I say why not!
Happy Dating J Spot Fam!
MzCeo
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Zarinah
You know that saying about being FRIENDS first,well I believe their some truth to that. I do believe a man and a woman can be friends,but they have to have a spiritual connection,because men nature is about procreation! Now if you find a man and woman as friends,sooner or later their will be an attraction there,because of the time they spend together. Women have to be the ones to keep it at the friendship level,if you give a man the slicest impression you are willing,that it, they will be ready! Not saying all men but the majority, the ones who have that connection with GOD they have a conscious and they will respect the woman the way GOD see her, the other half of man. This is only my opinion!