DO YOU HEAR THE WORDS THAT ARE COMIN’ OUTTA MY MOUTH???

DO YOU HEAR THE WORDS THAT ARE COMIN’ OUTTA MY MOUTH???

That line that Chris Tucker made famous several years ago in the movie Rush Hour, is still funny when I think of how he said it, but sometimes you find yourself either asking or wanting to ask someone just like he did, “DO YOU HEAR THE WORDS THAT ARE COMING OUTTA MY MOUTH?!?” Because the truth is a lot of times people suffer from selective hearing and only hear what they want, rather than listening to exactly what you are trying to say!

Parents, how many times do you say this to your children during the course of the day? It’s like with children, they rarely hear exactly what you tell them. You can look them in the eyes and have total silence in the background, tell them to do something and half of what you said will get accomplished. Then when you ask what happened they’ll say “oh I thought you said…” and rattle off something that was somewhat true! Well maybe that’s just in my house! LOL

Fellas, how many times have you found yourself in a situation where there is a woman who you’ve kicked it with and maybe she is ready for more than you are at the time and of course she’s shooting you signs and maybe is even bold enough to come right out and tell you her thoughts and asks you yours. Since she was so upfront, you respected that and you decided to be upfront as well so that you didn’t lead her on. You confessed that you liked her but you weren’t quite ready for what she was ready for. She looked at you for a moment, you thought that she followed but in the coming weeks, she proceeded in such a manner that you wondered if she had actually heard the words that were coming from out of your mouth! What happened there? Did she really not hear you or was she just determined to make you feel the same way she felt whether you liked it or not!?! It makes you wonder sometimes.

Ladies, we all know that we’ve done this at some point in our lives. It’s like there is literally a disconnect from what’s coming out of his mouth and what is going into our ears! Is it like in that movie, “He’s Just not that into you” that our girlfriends always have a way of telling us a little story of how they know of a great relationship that came about after a guy said something similar and now they live happily ever after? That can’t be it, or can it? The problem with that is that we start to believe what we want to believe rather than what is truth. We continue to act as if this man is feeling one way about us and when he finally says, “do you hear the words that are coming out of my mouth??” we’re shocked and appalled! If a man shows you his true colors believe him, don’t try and paint yourself a new picture!

Furthermore we have to listen not just when he tells us that he’s not ready for what we are. We have to pay attention to who he is PERIOD! We have to stop getting sucked in because we see a “project” that we can take on and we can mold him into this great man because it’ll just suck you dry! If a man shows you that he’s irresponsible, believe it! Take him for what he is or don’t take him at all. If he shows himself as a cheater, believe it! Don’t think after the ring that magically his cheating tendencies will stop because they won’t, it’ll only become worse! If he’s not taking care of the child(ren) that he currently has, don’t fool yourself into thinking that if you have a baby with him that he’ll take care of yours, it just won’t happen! I know sometimes we can’t help ourselves, but we have just got to start believing what we see. Yes a man can have potential and we can have faith, but with that there also must be action on his part. Someone can have all the potential of the world but if they do not act on that potential what good is it?

Just some food for thought…

Love Live Life,

MzCeo

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