Today I asked a question on Facebook “Would you seriously consider being with a person who has an ex’s name tattooed somewhere on their body? Also before you consider marrying someone or consider something serious would you ask that the tattoo be removed or covered up?”
Have you ever considered that? I know a few people with tattoos, including myself. A lot of them have names of significant people in their lives, whether it be their mother’s name or their children’s name or even a girlfriend or boyfriend’s name. I’m sure when one considers a tattoo of someone else’s name they wonder if it’s a good idea, but there are many reasons one goes along with it, despite the odds of if they’d be together forever.
Personally, I have a tattoo of my son’s father’s name on my arm… I know, I know, I know already, you all are probably shaking your heads at the computer screen asking why the heck did I do that???? LOL In my defense, I was 18 years old when I made that decision, I was also very much in love and figured that because we had a child together we’d be together forever and worst case scenario if we didn’t, he was a very significant person in my life and would always be. It’s funny how we rationalize things because I can specifically remember chatting with my friends before we were old enough to get tattoos and I said that I’d never get a dude’s name tatted on me. I just thought that was completely out of the picture! But being that he wasn’t just a boyfriend and we actually had a child together, I figured well it isn’t just any guy and I went through with it. Since then my son’s father and I have separated and involved in new situations and my tattoo hasn’t really bothered me or anyone that I was seeing. I looked at it as a part of me and my life. Hey it is what it is right? Well, for the past year or so, I’ve been ready to part with the fading artwork on my arm and get it removed.
For me my decision to get my tattoo removed initially came from me working in corporate America. At least once per year we go down to a convention that is a black tie affair and sometimes I feel awkward with such a big tattoo on my arm. Or when I walk into a meeting with a short sleeved shirt and my tattoo is showing and you see the eyes looking at it. Although the boardroom is changing, it’s still looked at as unprofessional to most. I also am now involved in a serious relationship and we are considering marriage, I don’t want to have to worry about cover up makeup on my arm and getting it on someone or my dress that would be the worst! Lastly, my beau isn’t comfortable with the tattoo. We’ve been together for years and he’s never mentioned my tattoo before, and now that we’re thinking of marriage he’d prefer that it be gone and I guess eventhough my first thought was well it’s there, it’s been there for as long as I’ve known you, I can only respect that he doesn’t want his wife to have another man’s name tattooed anywhere on her body.
So what do you think? Do you have any tattoo regret?
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Zarinah
No regrets as yet but I like to have general tattoos so I don’t think I will get to a stage where I have to regret.
Thanks for stopping by The J Spot! That’s a good thing all your tattoos are general, the rest of mine are and I have no intention of covering them or getting them removed.
I was 18 too when I got my ex husbands name on my arm. Like you I was in love and young. I was with this guy from the age of 13 he was like my life saver. I was really looking at living my life with this man. Well the ex can tell you we are no longer together. I was not in a healthy relationship and although i told myself he loved me and everything would be ok he never got better. We split up after 10 years and I started hating seeing his name on my arm. I hated it sooo much that I went into a tatto shop and had it covered 3 years after the split up. Now I have a tattoo that has roses over the one i had and i added my daughters name. I can say that I regret the tattoo then and even now. I just feel like if it was just a small tattoo it would be ok but its not and it really is bothering me the more i grow older. I know my childrens name are on my arm now but they would have never been there if I wasnt so childish when i put my ex’s name on my arm.
Yes as you know I can definitely relate to that! Now I’ll be stuck paying the price, $1500 to get this tattoo removed surgically…. Hindsight is 20/20 and if I could only have thought more wisely I could keep that $1500 to do other things, but instead I have to do this! I was hesitant to get it because of this very reason, but LOVE took over my MIND and now here I am…. But we all learn a lesson and in my life I’ve learned many… thank God we’re young enough to grow from it and make better, wiser decisions moving forward!
wow .. nice tattoo..